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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

Last Updated: 30.06.2025 03:03

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

If my heart stopped beating, would I have enough energy to walk out into the other room 20 ft away before I passed out and died?

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

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By taking turns talking.

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.